Monday, January 28, 2013

What does mother mean to you?

        When You Think Of The Word Mother What Comes To Mind? To Some It May Mean One Thing While To Others Is Something Different. Well according to the Webster Dictionary "Mother" Is A Noun Meaning A Women In Relation To A Child Or Children To Whom She Has Given Birth.I Realize This May Cause Some Controversy But I Feel The Need To Ask This Question. I've Heard People That Say A Mother Is The One Who Raised You Up, Feed You,Taught You, Loved You, While Others Say A Mother Is The One Whom Carried You For Nine Months And Birthed You.
        To Me There Are Many Definitions Of The Word Mother And Many Are Applicable Only Those With 'Closed Eyes" Can't See That There Are Many Meanings To The Word Mother. A Person Who Gives Birth To You,Raises You,Loves You And Cares For A Child Is A Mother. Look At Mother Theresa She Was A Mother To Thousand Of Poor Children.Let's Look At Adoption Well Just Because She Didn't Physically  Birth That Child Does That Mean She Isn't A Mother When I Look At The Word Birth Which Means The Emergence Of  Baby Or Other Young From The Body Of It's Mother,The Start Of Life As A Physically Separate Being.When I Look At The Last Part Of This Definition  The Start Of Life As A Physically Separate Being I Have To Think Of Those Babies Born To Unfit Mothers Or Drug Addicts And Being Adopted By A Loving Caring Mother Is Then A New Start Of Life.
        When I Look At My Own Life I Had Many Mothers To Whom They All Gave Me Love,Care,Feed Me And Even Some Point In My Life The Birthed Me Not In The Natural Eye But Spiritually At Some Point In My Life. When I Think Of My Own Mother She Was A Mother To Many But Only Birthed Four.She Was A Kind Loving Caring Women Who Loved Many And Showed It Daily In Her Giving She Wasn't Selfish And She Shared Her Love. So When I Think Of A Mother I Think OF Every Positive Women Who Played Some Role In My Life Whether It Was By Birth Or Chance They Are And Still Is Considered My Mother......





moth·erÂ

1. A woman who conceives, gives birth to, or raises and nurtures a child.
2. A female parent of an animal.
3. A female ancestor.
4. A woman who holds a position of authority or responsibility similar to that of a mother: a den mother.
5. Roman Catholic Church
a. A mother superior.
b. Used as a form of address for such a woman.
6. A woman who creates, originates, or founds something: "the discovery of radium, which made Marie Curie mother to the Atomic Age" Alden Whitman.
7. A creative source; an origin: Philosophy is the mother of the sciences.
8. Used as a title for a woman respected for her wisdom and age.
9. Maternal love and tenderness: brought out the mother in her.
10. The biggest or most significant example of its kind: the mother of all battles.
11. Vulgar Slang Something considered extraordinary, as in disagreeableness, size, or intensity.
adj.
1. Relating to or being mother.
2. Characteristic of a mother: mother love.
3. Being the source or origin: the mother church.
4. Derived from or as if from one's mother; native: one's mother language.
tr.v. moth·ered, moth·er·ing, moth·ers
1. To give birth to; create and produce.
2. To watch over, nourish, and protect maternally.


Sunday, December 30, 2012

The Young and the Restless December 2012 Year End


     Is Adam really going to ruin his marriage for Sharon? Will  Jack allow drugs to make him loose what he has tried his whole life to take from Victor be taking away from him plus much more? These among others are some of the questions that most of us fans are waiting to see. I been watching The Young And The Restless for well over 20 years now and for the most part have always been able to predict whats gonna happen before it does because the story lines where just that predictable but I never would have expected Adam to just flip on Chelsea for Sharon especially now after loosing the baby Adam has never been one of my favorite characters but putting him and Chelsea together was a good one they are one of my favorite all times couples they really looked good together and they really brought out the best in each other.

I didnt agree with making them lose the baby if anything Chelsea deserved that she was a low life who got caught up in Victors web like others but she found away out she made good by Victoria and Billy she did give them the baby to tied their family together and when approched by Victor to take the money and leave she turned him down why all because she loved Adam and she wanted to be a better person, for what to loose everything Loosing the baby and Adam may just make her turn back to her old ways but i quess we will just have to wait and see.For some odd reason the writers always have those people who just will never  be happy and unforuntely it looks as though Adam,Chelsea along with Jack never will.


     Now lets take Jack on the other hand this man have made it his lifes mission to take Victor down to gain access over Newman Enterprise and when he finally do  they turn him into an drug addicted pill popping alcoholic wow seriously Jack can never stay on top when his a Jabo took him forever to finally have a child but can never find true happiness he has lost his whole family and now on the edge of loosing not only Newman back to Victor "MAN"  since Ive been watching and every time he falls why he gets back up evn bigger and better than before I love Victor but really dont you think its time for him to just relax and be suttle be a grandfather to the grands since he wasnt there for his kids.Why not give some of the other people a chance like Neal he has always had problems never can keep a lady and is always to me a do boy he is characterized to be this very smart business savvy person who is good enough to run everyones company but why cant he start his own company and find true love. Tucker was brought in out of nowhere already a very powerful man with his own and have almost the same connections like Victor and he is Mrs. Chancelors son. All im saying is 2013 is approaching and I would love to see  some new unpredicable story lines wouldnt you?   



                                           
               








Saturday, December 29, 2012

why do criminals get so much attention


                                            




       Preplanned or not it happened innocent kids and adults lost their lives.Blame it on media or a very sick individual I feel that the media always put to much attention on the person who committed the crime verses the ones affected by by the crime.How can the family grieve i every time the turn on the television it a replay on the tragic take the latest tragic story for days we have heard about Adam Lanza and the rampage he went on killing 20 children and 6 adults including his own mother. Why? What about the families why not consider what they must be going thru and give them time to mourn time to disgust what happened. I can only image what it would be like to lose someone let alone a kid so tragic and have to hear about it all day everyday on every channel on television in every news paper.Someone posted a remark about the social media giving the ones that commit the crime to much attention making them to be a somebody rather than a nobody I totally agree that we should not put so much emphasis on the criminal.Think about if it was child/family affected by so awful crime would you want to be broadcasted all over every channel every single day every time you turned on the television,probably not so why put the families affected in your shoes.
    Have you ever had such tragic happened to you or your family well i have twice once was my brother he was shot a killed at a night club do you know how it felt every single day all we heard was about the terrible killings at a night club with over twenty people injured and only one killed and that one was my brother at the age of 22 years old. The news media never thought of the family and how it would affect us hearing about this and seeing his picture flash across the television everyday after showing  the picture of the gunmen. The next time was my Auntie who was shot and killed by an Ex-boyfriend in her house same thing all over again The News Media talked about the gunman as if he was a celebrity or something never once did anyone contact the family to see how or if we were affected by this.I remember turning on the television for her daughter after it happened to try to get her mind off of what she had witnessed and the first thing that appeared was a picture of the man that had killed her mother in front of her and her brother she started to scream and ran out the room in fear, can you imagine that it took her a long time to even wanna watch T.V. because she assumed that the man that had harmed her family would be there waiting on the television. So again I have to ask am I The only one that feels The media gives The criminal to much attention


It Is Easy To Motivate Others.. But Not Ourselves

Why does it  come so easy to encourage and motivate others but when it comes  to yourself it so hard? This is a question i find myself pondering over on many occasions.Ive always been one that you could count on in time of need no matter the issue.I beat myself up over and over thinking its not fair to me that i can give my all to everyone but when I find myself going thru things I have no one to turn  to no support system not even a listening ear. But do I turn my back on people or must I learn to encourage myself ,continue to pray for the strength the courage to keep on doing what I'm  doing. Donald Lawerence sings one of my favorite songs that says "Sometimes you have to encourage yourself  speaking victory during the test and no matter how you feel speak the word you will be healed " Those are words we all should live by daily because how can we encourage others but cant do it for yourself. Just listening to this song helps me when I'm going through something.Its funny how you can listen to a song over and over but only hear the words that are related to what you are going through.

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

We Are Here On A Powerful Life Journey... Les Brown Inspiration

 
     We are all here on a journey and although each one of us seems to come from vastly different parts of the world truth is we have all come here to learn the same lessons. All things have been born for one reason and one reason only to live and while this sounds simple and even obvious far too many beings are born and die while few truly live. Les Brown who is an awesome motivational speaker stated  that we all are born with skills and talents and if we sit around and never do anything with them we take them to our grave with us.

He talks about his personal life like being born in abandoned building him and his twin brother,being  put up for adoption and getting adopted.his struggle thru life and being labeled a mentally retard but  he never allowed that to kill his dreams,his talents one of his favorites sayings is " Never let someone opinion of you determine your out-come". So many of us make excuses of our child hood and surroundings stating that's why we act a certain way or only have certain things but he shows us throughout his life that this is  far from being true.

Growing up I was the second child out of four to a mother who was in and out of prison for shoplifting. She later became a victim of substance abuse. This really helped me because the more I saw everything she did to us it made me become the the strong independent women I am today. By seeing these events it helped me make up in my mind that I would never travel down that path. By the grace of God Ive never chosen to steal anything nor have I picked up any habits that are damaging such as smoking a cigarette. Yes it could have been easy for me to fall into that life style but I made up in my mind at an early age that my child or children would never have to experience any situations because of my actions that could scar  them mentally growing up nor would I do anything that would prevent them from seeing me for extended periods of time. I understood that the world/streets would still be there but i was going to make sure any child of mine would have the opportunity of enjoying a normal childhood. I was going to be there for all plays, games, graduations, proms, and i have stood by my word.  You are not your body nor your mind. You are spirit..... your mind allows you to connect to spirit and your body allows you to physically feel spirit. Life is meant to be lived......we are not put here to live just to die.

Love Yourself first

 The Key to Loving Yourself as Tony Fahkry Stated, "It Is very important for one to love himself." When you dont love yourself it is hard to expect others o love you.Agreed we may have many faults and shortcomings But you must embrace yourself with all your faults and learn to love yourself Self-Love and self-esteem are related to each.
    Valerie Olmsted stated in her book  Learning To Love Oneself : Loving without Reservation- To Love without reservation means to love completely,fully without suspicion or distrust,kindly compassionately and consciously. Many people fall in lust rather than love or fall in love with the idea of being in love.My best-friend is one who falls in love so easily and quickly one would consider this as falling in love with the idea of being in love. I once made the mistake of questioning her love for another and she got upset, I suggested that she look into her self and find what she is missing and what she desires most out of relationship. Most women go into relationships with their eyes closed and hearts wide open.There's nothing wrong with loving but one must be logical too.

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Have you Ever Brandy song Thoughts

      No One Ever Said It As Good As Brandy" Have You Ever Loved Someone So Much It Makes You Cry Have You Ever Loved Them Bad You Can't Sleep At Night? We Are All Guilty Of Falling In Love It Happens So Fast You Never Know It Until Its To Late To Pull Away. Does It Matter If You Are Male Or Female Love Doesn't Care. Its A bad Feeling When You Are The One That's On The Other End And You Give Someone Your  All Only To Realize The Don't feel The Same. Do You Walk away Do You Stay? I Wish I Could Give You The Answer But It Only Lies In You. Ive Been On Both Ends And Believe Me One Doesn't Feel Any Better Than The Other. I Wonder If We Had Control Of Who We Fell In Love With Or When We Fell Outta Love How Many Of Us Would Stay In Love For Long Periods Of Time.Couldn't You Just Imagine If We All Walked Around With A Button On Us And Could Just Push It When We Wanted To Fall In Love With Someone.Crazy Right What If We didn't t Even Have Hearts No One Had Feelings Would It Make The World A Better Place Then Would It Be Easier To Find Your Soul Mate Just Think About It The Next Time You Say These Three Simple Words " I Love You"......